What is the best way to dump somebody?

[lagger]

what are people's feelings on this issue?

[PK]

Isn't that why e-mail was invented? lol

Sorry. Bad joke.


Is Dr. Love in?   

[Hunter]

Seriously, if you're going to "dump" someone, be honest. I realize a lot of people lie to save the other persons feelings, or any other excuse, but honesty is the absolute best policy, along with tact. Besides, if you do it that way you may still come out with some dignity in the end and possibly a friend.

[Ginafish]

Hmm..Dr. Love? What do you think? Face to face confrontation or stop returning their phone calls?

[Dr. Love]

Sorry for the delay. I'm in the middle of writing an article for Psychology Digest about babies and their unhealthy dependency for nourishment.

Anyway, so you want to break up with someone and you want to avoid hurting their feelings. ....And, at the same time, avoid getting slapped. Is that right?

Well, as you know, if it's not working out for one of you then the relationship is missing 50% of its foundation and hopefully the other person can realize that and agree that it would be in both parties best interest to terminate the contract. Sorry for the technical jargon. My 3rd wife was a paralegal.

As far as what to say? That's a tough one. Each person has a different level of sensitivity. I, for one, cried for months after wife #3 left me. And it wasn't until wife #5 that I truly got over her.

Of course, without knowing the other person in lagger's life, the best advice I can give is to make sure the other person knows something's wrong. In other words, don't drop a bomb. If they've been paying attention (and you haven't been keeping your feelings inside) then they'll know things aren't working out. So open the lines of communication and prepare them for what's coming.

Next you should try finding a reason why the other person would benefit from NOT being with you and approach it from that direction. If you don't have enough time for a relationship then say, "You deserve to be with someone who can make more time for you." If you don't like the clothes she wears then say, "You deserve to be with someone who appreciates velour jogging suits."

Our time is almost up, so I'd like to end our session by saying -- Someone always gets hurt in a break-up. Rejection is not easy, even if the other person knows it's a bad relationship. But, in the end, it's for the best and they'll realize that after the initial pain of the break-up has passed. ...Or after the judge decides what belongs with who.

The Doctor has spoken. Please pay my receptionist, wife #8, on your way out.

[lagger]

Mostly good advice here people.I personally find it needs to be honest and face to face. no dear jane letters

[ZeroG]

Tell her:

"Someone contacted me named John Smith, I know it sounds weird, but he said he is your long lost brother who is looking for his sister and his mom. I gave him your number, 861-282-2863, and said if she doesn't respond, she must not want to contact you. So he should be contacting you soon. "

Her: "But that is not my number...my number is 862-281-2863..you idiot!

[Stasven]

Three simple words:

I Am Gay. 

If you're with a gay person, then uh, say you're straight! 

[Ginafish]

Maybe you should by them an appliance, like a blender, or toaster, for Valentines Day. I understand that seems to turn the ladies off... And only a week and a half to go!

Or if it's a man you need to get rid of, start talking about your wedding and kids.

[Hunter]

Or if it's a man you need to get rid of, start talking about your wedding and kids.

Your EXPENSIVE wedding and 12 kids.

[lagger]

Maybe you should by them an appliance, like a blender, or toaster, for Valentines Day. I understand that seems to turn the ladies off... And only a week and a half to go!

Or if it's a man you need to get rid of, start talking about your wedding and kids.

Q. Whit do women wear white to their wedding?
A. dont all kitchen appliances come in white?
*braces for flaming*

[Ginafish]

Women wear white at weddings in America mainly for tradition. Originally it was for purity but now...mostly tradition.

Appliances are mostly white so men can tell when they are dirty. And because it will match any paint color...something burnt mustard yellow appliances couldn't do.

[lambie83]

ooh!  Bad Lagger!

[Hunter]

Okay, I'm a bit disappointed. I was hoping to see a shoe fly across the room or something!

[heavyj]

get yourself on americas most wanted and prepare to be dumped

[PK]

Or, if you don't want to go that far, just tell her you've been on TV and when she asks, "Oh yea, what show?" Tell her, "COPS! I was the guy with no shirt on."

[Jack Daniel Stanley]

Hire a boy band.
Tell her you want to "have a talk" at a quiet place.
Later at the quiet place, when she gets suspicious and says,
"you ... you're not breaking up with me are you?"
You say
"what, no of course not ... I hired a boy band to break up with you"
then they appear with slick coreography and sing.
"IT'S NOT YOU, IT'S ME GIRL!"  etc.

[PK]

lol And if that doesn't work, tell her you're dating the boy band.

[ZeroG]

1 800 boy-band

[thartley]

Maybe you should by them an appliance, like a blender, or toaster, for Valentines Day. I understand that seems to turn the ladies off... And only a week and a half to go!

Oh, I would be VERY happy if someone gave me a brand new Fantom vacuum cleaner for Valentine's Day.  Best one I ever owned and it bellied up years ago.  Bissel just doesnt cut it. And the Fantom I want is only avail online.  K-Mart used to sell them, but I cant find them anywhere now. 

Guess I'll have to settle for buying myself more chocolate! 

[Stasven]

There's rarely a mutual break-up. Ask your partner how they feel about you, and if they say they love you (or something along those lines) then think about how you really feel about the situation. If you still want to break up, just be totally honest. They may hate the way you treated them at first, but in time you'll both feel better about it.

[bustak]

Homer Simpson says the best way to break up is with "3-simple words...":
http://www.fortunecity.co...ar/poitier/135/iamgay.wav

- of course if you're gay, you replace gay w/ straight!

 

[Stasven]

Yeah bustak, I said that about 10 posts ago.

[bustak]

^ hehehe! Hey sick minds think a like!

[Stasven]

Whaddya mean sick minds? You callin' me a sicko, sicko?