I guess I'm just being aloof and cant blame anyone for saying that...

[pohui]

Hi folks..

This might kinda long but as what mentioned in the "subject".. I think I'm kinda aloof..

Days ago, A friend called up and asked if i would like to drop by at his place for a tea-session.

Initially, I said, "why not, if u dont mind my sweaty look" (as I was at town at time of the day), but second thoughts, I decided to decline his invitation as I kinda burned-out following a long,hard day at my mother's stall since early morning and a day out at town area.

So, i told this friend, "probably, we could meet up again soon as I;m kinda tired", From that, I could tell that my friend was pretty upset for  this pretty-often "last-minute" antics of my.

As such, he said, "you such a aloof guy, this will be the LAST time i ask you out!!"

Feeling pretty bad about but i was really dead-tired, and should have reject the invitation straight away, to avoid all these unpleasantness.

To make thing even worse, days later, it just slipped out of my mind that this friend had asked to do him a favour..

Arggghhh.. I think you guys guessed it.. He really mad at me.. Gosh What have I done!!

But then again, I would really wish some of my pals can be more understanding in a sense I'm a 24/7 man.. 

This thread is not to seek sympathy or whatsoever but just to let off some steam in my mind..

.. Sometimes, U just cant please everybody...

[Ginafish]

Pohui, one thing that is hard to face, for me at least, is the difference between REAL friends, and the 'not' real friends. The one's who are truly your friends will forgive you for your faults, and for having a bad day and changing your plans.

The 'not' real friends might hold a grudge or get mad if plans change, because this 'friendship' is about 'them' not about both of you. 'Not real friends' are something we might call friends, because we like to eat with them, or we like to talk to them at work, or they are our 'bowling' buddy, or something. But usually these are friends that we have for something specific, not an overall true friend.

It will be up to you to decide how friendly you want to be, if you want to share everything about yourself, or if you want to be a temporary friend, or if you don't want to be friends at all. If you want to keep the friendship with this guy, tell him you are truly sorry, you were tired the day you were suppose to have tea, and that although you forgot to do the favor for him, if you can still do it, you'd like to have another chance. 

I don't think you are aloof, because you cared enough to tell us about this friendship and how you were hurt and how he was hurt. Aloof people don't care at all, but you obviously do. 

Course, I'm a stranger, and none of this is my business so my opinion doesn't matter at the end of the day to anyone but myself.